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Q: My child doesn't listen to me. How can I change it?
Submitted by takeit on Sat, 08/13/2016 - 12:13, updated on Tue, 08/29/2017 - 06:57
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Submitted by JR on Wed, 08/23/2017 - 13:04, updated on Wed, 08/23/2017 - 13:04
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If your child doesn’t listen to you, you’ll need to change your approach. If you’re yelling, that needs to stop. No one likes being yelled at. When my husband yells at me, I tune him out. So if I yell at my kids, I know that they aren’t listening to me either. All it does is make everyone feel bad. Try these things instead. Walk up to them and request It sounded stupid until I tried it myself. I can holler up the stairs to my kids to put their clothes away or do a task and it will be ignored. However, if I walk over to them and simply as, I’ve noticed whatever I ask for gets taken care of. Take something away If the problem is that you’re asking nicely and no one is obeying despite you not shouting your head off, then your child needs a lesson in respecting your authority. Give a stern warning like, “If I have to ask you again to put your clothes away, I’ll be taking the iPad for 24 hours.” Then follow through. There will be tears and anger, but your child will learn the price for not listening. Form a united front My problem was once that my husband didn’t show respect or ask nicely. As a result, my kids were acting the way he did. When I brought it to his attention that they were emulating his behavior, he changed his tune. Make a pact with your partner to have each other’s back when they kids get nasty and stick to it. When they see they can’t manipulate you against each other, it’s game over. |